Why I write this article? Because all of us must learn how to respect our environtment, from children, elders, and dont forget teens! It's important because we can't live without the others, and we should understand the people who live in the world to have a peaceful, happy, and surviving life. Parents or elders please enjoy reading this article. ^^
Your bubbly, affectionate and exuberant kid who wanted to share everything with you has taken a permanent vacation, replaced with a hormone-controlled stranger who runs from intimacy. It's tempting to use any method to eke out the littlest bit of insight into her rapidly changing world, but the more you pry, the more she shies. Here's how to respect your teen's privacy, so as not to widen the communication gap.
- Step back and don't intrude. Unless you suspect that he's involved in something dangerous or illegal, don't go through his things in his room. That's his space in your house, and recognizing and holding to that will foster a relationship based on trust.
- Try not to pry. Even if you desperately want to know who her latest crush is or what happened to cause that rift between her and her best friend, tread lightly. Ask her about her personal life in a delicate manner, encouraging her to open up rather than demanding an answer.
- Recognize uncomfortable situations. When entering an area that the two of you haven't discussed before, such as sex or drugs, if you're not comfortable with the conversation, chances are he isn't, either. Follow these clues and realize that maybe the current time isn't the right time to be broaching certain subjects, or maybe his other parent should field the issue.
- Avoid embarrassment. Nothing is more devastating to a teenager than being embarrassed by anyone, anywhere. That teasing you used to do, the hugging in front of the school or the goodbye kiss may be just enough to humiliate your teen. She'll feel violated if you, her most trusted person, make her feel unsafe in any way.
- Set boundaries for the bedroom. Besides not snooping, there should be rules regarding his room to give him reasonable privacy. There should be no locks on the door, he shouldn't bring anything into his room that he doesn't want you to find and he should keep the room neat if he doesn't want you in there straightening up.
- Create a safe haven. Part of respecting your teen's privacy is being patient and waiting for her to come to you with her problems. As hard as this is, it's worth it if you strive to keep your relationship fresh with good communication skills. The more she learns that you'll allow her to come to you without pushing any limits, the more likely she is to do so.
- Celebrate your teen. Rather than fight the inevitable changes in your relationship, show him how much you still love him by praising him for his growing independence and accomplishments every chance you get. He'll feel so much more validated and inclined to share his life with you, thus nurturing a new, respectful and more mature relationship.
I do think that respecting other people,s privacy is important.......that's the perfect way to keep a friendship........of you want to be honoured,please honour other people.........I really enjoy this article.............thanx for making it............:)