Why we must respect the elders? Now, I write an article about why we must respect the elders. In the past i've written how to teach the child, then now is how to teach your self and show your respect.
Elders have also been through all the phases you are going through and know a little more about the world than you do. However much you disagree with them, give them credit for their experience.
It is likely that you do not agree with the beliefs and the sentiments of your elders. But remember that even this is nothing new. All younger generations have always disagreed with their elders and it is these differences that bring changes in human society.
Another example - according to our tradition, children do not sit on a higher level than their elders. Therefore, if there were no space on sofas or chairs, children would immediately give up their places, and sit on the carpet. In buses and trains, youngsters were expected to give up their places to older people.
This is not a question of who has more rights. It is simply that those who are younger have the strength (or are expected to) bear discomfort, or tolerate unpleasantness, so it is natural to show consideration to those who are older and perhaps, at a slight disadvantage.
And when you do simple things as a mark of respect, elders become aware that youngsters care for them, and they respond with affection and kindness.
Elders have also been through all the phases you are going through and know a little more about the world than you do. However much you disagree with them, give them credit for their experience.
It is likely that you do not agree with the beliefs and the sentiments of your elders. But remember that even this is nothing new. All younger generations have always disagreed with their elders and it is these differences that bring changes in human society.
Nowadays, children fight back, causing even more aggravation. The result is an ugly war of words, with each person trying to out-shout the other.
Another example - according to our tradition, children do not sit on a higher level than their elders. Therefore, if there were no space on sofas or chairs, children would immediately give up their places, and sit on the carpet. In buses and trains, youngsters were expected to give up their places to older people.
This is not a question of who has more rights. It is simply that those who are younger have the strength (or are expected to) bear discomfort, or tolerate unpleasantness, so it is natural to show consideration to those who are older and perhaps, at a slight disadvantage.
And when you do simple things as a mark of respect, elders become aware that youngsters care for them, and they respond with affection and kindness.
Then this is a few steps about how to respect the elders.
- Never refer to them by their first name, unless asked to. This is an important sign of respect. Always call the person by whatever they prefer, whether that is "Miss Smith", "Lily", or even just "Ma'am."
- Listen to their advice. Your elders have lived a lot longer than you, which means they have probably grown very wise or very cranky. Listen to what they have to offer, because if you don't they will mostly likely berate or guilt you. They have the time to do it! Of course, you need not take their advice. Or take it! They are people just like you. Don't treat them otherwise.
- Offer to help. They will appreciate any assistance you're willing to give them. Ask to help carry groceries in, hold a door open, or something else that is simple but genuine.
- Use basic manners. A simple please and thank you can mean a lot. Always be polite and sincere.
- Show an interest in their life. Ask them about their childhood, or how things were in the past. They'll be happy that you're interested, and glad to tell you all sorts of cool stories.
- Be a friend. Offer to read them, or maybe even have a cup of hot chocolate together. The person will love your company, and you'll both find a pal.
- Be patient. With age, people sometimes lose their logic and reasoning. They may be confused as to why you are associating to them. Gently remind them of who you are and your role in their life. They will appreciate the reminder and like you more.
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